This Parenting Think is too Important! We Can’t Flounder!

It’s time to gather with the gang at Five Minute Friday.  My timer is set.  Today’s word is intentional.  I’m ready: go!

We can’t leave our kids to themselves to figure out life.  Parenting godly kids doesn’t just happen it takes time and effort.  You might say, “they’re so young, they don’t understand.”  “They can’t memorize scripture at age 2”

I say, Oh yes they do and yes they can.

These little boogers are sinful beings, their life is affected by sin before they are even born whether it’s seen or not.  The child whose mother smoked, or took drugs or “nature” caused a deformity that causes a little one to be born imperfect.  Their imperfect is just more visible than the :perfect” little babies imperfect.

When we allow our children free reign because training is too hard, they grow up with no boundaries.  They’ll live for themselves not to please anyone else.  (Ask me how I know).

When we over shelter our children or make arbitrary rules in our home without meaning or explanation we set our children up to rebel.  You don’t like the word dude?  Oh well.  Get over yourself because it’s not wrong, evil or bad.  In fact, I happen to think it’s almost the perfect word.  Inflection is everything, but that’s another story.

You say they must be exposed to the world to understand it? They must experience it firsthand?  I say no.  Seeing the world without being in the world is possible.  I recently read an article where the author tells his readers that in order to teach respect of authority and the drug and alcohol culture, the author and his wife exposed their children to the T.V. show “COPS”.

This is an excellent way to be intentional in parenting.   As parents, we can’t flounder.  We can’t lay down the law.  We can’t make arbitrary rules in our homes without reason.  Our kids our too smart for that.  We must teach them and train them.  We must be like the Israelite’s when we train our children and make it a lifestyle, not a list of regulations or worse even, we must not leave our little ones without any guidance as they maneuver this sin sick world.

I realize we no longer live under the old law, but it is extremely valuable in understanding the new law.  Look at verse 5 below:  “love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul mind and strength.”  Sound familiar?  Of course it does.  When we do this.  When we love the Lord in this way we will be compelled to love others as ourselves.  We will be compelled to treat others with kindness, we will be compelled to teach and train our children to love, honor and serve Christ alone and as a response to serve others first.   This entire passage is replete with God’s way to raise our children intentionally and not only that, but it also teaches us how each of us should live as we maneuver this sin sick world around us.

Love the Lord Your God

Deuteronomy 6

These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you.

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

10 When the Lord your God brings you into the land he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, to give you—a land with large, flourishing cities you did not build, 11 houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant—then when you eat and are satisfied, 12 be careful that you do not forget the Lord, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

13 Fear the Lord your God, serve him only and take your oaths in his name. 14 Do not follow other gods, the gods of the peoples around you; 15 for the Lord your God, who is among you, is a jealous God and his anger will burn against you, and he will destroy you from the face of the land. 16 Do not put the Lord your God to the test as you did at Massah. 17 Be sure to keep the commands of the Lord your God and the stipulations and decrees he has given you. 18 Do what is right and good in the Lord’s sight, so that it may go well with you and you may go in and take over the good land the Lord promised on oath to your ancestors, 19 thrusting out all your enemies before you, as the Lord said.

20 In the future, when your son asks you, “What is the meaning of the stipulations, decrees and laws the Lord our God has commanded you?” 21 tell him: “We were slaves of Pharaoh in Egypt, but the Lord brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand. 22 Before our eyes the Lord sent signs and wonders—great and terrible—on Egypt and Pharaoh and his whole household. 23 But he brought us out from there to bring us in and give us the land he promised on oath to our ancestors. 24 The Lord commanded us to obey all these decrees and to fear the Lord our God, so that we might always prosper and be kept alive, as is the case today. 25 And if we are careful to obey all this law before the Lord our God, as he has commanded us, that will be our righteousness.


  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    01/21/2018 at 12:40 am Reply

    Not a parent, but enjoyed reading this.

    • Christy

      01/21/2018 at 3:40 pm Reply

      The fact that you came, read and left a comment means the world to me friend!

  • Jeanne Takenaka

    01/19/2018 at 1:58 pm Reply

    Christy, great words, friend. This parenting thing is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. And yet, this calling has also been one that has drawn me closer to the Lord. We must be intentional in our parenting. It’s hard being the “bad guy” sometimes. But to be anything less than purposeful in raising our kids will lead to even bigger scars on their spirits and souls than this life already gives them.

    Thanks for sharing your passion!

  • Tara

    01/19/2018 at 1:20 pm Reply

    Deut 6:4-9 one of my fave Scriptures.

  • Debby

    01/19/2018 at 10:12 am Reply

    For too long I thought those words were a promise. Even with a good foundation some will wander. That doesn’t mean we give up hope or throw out training. Thanks for encouraging we don’t let our kids raise themselves. Amen!

    • Christy

      01/19/2018 at 10:33 am Reply

      Me too Debby! I fear many of us believe or believed many o.t. words were promises and became disillusioned when children wandered. I grew up in a home where I was left to wander…only God’s grace brought me to know Him as my Savior. That is one reason why I believe it’s so important to be intentional in our teaching and training.

  • Mary Hood

    01/19/2018 at 9:45 am Reply

    Great words here! Having raised children with Christian values and rules, and right now, having them both be in the prodigal position, I have no regrets that I trained them in the Lord, and I well know that I was not perfect in all my ways. But I refer to Is 6:1 “I the Lord have brought up children and they have rebelled against me”. What I keep telling myself is that my children have their own wills that I have no control over, just as God as a parent has to give us over to our wills. Intentional parenting is something that has gone by the wayside for many, sad to say. Bless you as you intentionally continue to pave a right path before them.

    • Christy

      01/19/2018 at 9:53 am Reply

      I’m sorry to hear about your children Mary. None of us are perfect in our parenting are we? I pray that the Holy Spirit will work in your children and call them back to their first love.

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