Better and Different

I worked for a restaurant in college whose slogan was “Better and Different.” It was ahead of it’s time. Problems were called opportunities and servers were given the authority to comp a dessert if something had happened to mar the customers experience.

As believers, we are called to be different.  We are also called to excellence.  You might say we are called to be “better and different.”

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

But sometimes in Christian circles it doesn’t happen this way.

My oldest and I were talking this evening.  It’s been hard to move on.  It’s been hard to trust again. I’m ashamed to say that I found my mind wandering and wondering if parts of a sermon I heard recently were the Pastors words or if he had plagiarized them. I went as far as to search online to make sure.  I knew without a doubt that those words were not stolen from someone else but the previous betrayal had caused me to doubt.  It had nothing to do with that Pastor, it had everything to do with the previous betrayal.  I am ashamed that I can’t trust right now.  But I also know that as time passes, I’ll trust again.

I reminded my daughter  (and myself) that people will always hurt us.  But God is faithful.  We are called to be better and different, but it only comes through God at work in our lives.  It’s nothing we can do without him.  And even then our spirit wrestles against the good that God wants to do in us and we fail.   That’s the entire reason the Gospel is so important.

Without  the Gospel there would be no hope of healing.  No hope for the future.  Our world would be bleak.  We’d never learn to trust anyone.

But we can’t continue walking in fear of what others might do to us.  We can’t draw into ourselves and walk alone.  We must have faith that God knows exactly what we need when we need it.  We must trust him even when we don’t understand why or how.

This is what better and different is.  Walking in faith knowing that God not only has our back, but he’s ordained every step.  Knowing that no matter what ugly behavior and words are thrown our way.  No matter how betrayed we’ve been, if  we’ve been sold into slavery, falsely accused, imprisoned and left to rot in jail.  God has not forgotten us.  What he’s allowed is for his good and perfect purpose.  A purpose we don’t always understand but a purpose we can trust.

I would never again want to walk through this world without Jesus by my side.


  • Anita Ojeda

    12/17/2017 at 12:08 pm Reply

    I’m so sorry that you experieced such hurt and betrayal, Christy. That happened to us once–and it took awhile to recover and regain a sense of trust in anyone. But learning on Jesus certainly made the transition easier! Blessings to you and your beautiful family this season!

    • Christy

      12/18/2017 at 9:26 am Reply

      Jesus and having a loving, grace-filled church family has helped so very much. Sometimes the residual pops back up though…Blessings to you and yours as well!

  • Martha G. Brady

    12/15/2017 at 7:31 pm Reply

    when trust is broken, it has quite a ripple effect doesn’t it? so sad! it takes time for trust to be built back up for sure! i guess that is why some of the warnings to leaders are so dire! distressing and important to pay attention to for all leaders. very difficult.

    • Christy

      12/16/2017 at 9:54 am Reply

      There have been so many ripples Martha. I’ll probably never forget the conversation I had with the children of that man the night of that terrible meeting. Their view of mercy meant there should be no consequences. Their “mercy” has brought horrendous natural consequences for so many. Other situations I’m aware of have brought condemnation and judgement in the name of love and are destroying relationships as I type. So very sad.

  • Lesley

    12/15/2017 at 4:56 pm Reply

    I think it’s understandable that it takes time to trust again when you’ve been betrayed. It is encouraging to know that even in tough situations God is with us and he has a purpose.

    • Christy

      12/16/2017 at 9:48 am Reply

      I think knowing that God has a purpose in the madness is what keeps us going Lesley.

  • jennifer ingram

    12/15/2017 at 9:39 am Reply

    we have been through one of those years in our house, too. knowing Jesus is unchangeable is our source of strength.

    • Christy

      12/15/2017 at 10:52 am Reply

      Thanks Jennifer. Jesus has been ever present through out the several struggles of the year. I don’t know how I ever lived without him!

  • boucherpye

    12/15/2017 at 1:38 am Reply

    “God not only has our back…” I was writing this week on the armor of God (Eph 6) and read in a commentary something I’d not realized before – there is no armor covering our back. We stand in faith, facing the enemy. But your words ‘God has our back’ makes me grateful too, for he is our armor… FMF #7

    • Christy

      12/15/2017 at 8:54 am Reply

      Interesting that you would refer to Eph 6. God put that passage before my husband and I for close to 4 years before we went into battle. I’m not sure I’ve realized that so pointedly before. Thanks for sharing and thanks for stopping by!

  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    12/14/2017 at 11:33 pm Reply

    So sad about the trust issue, Christy…but I admire your calm faith, that you will learn to trust again.

    People will indeed let us down; God won’t, not ever.

    • Christy

      12/15/2017 at 9:11 am Reply

      In life, by humans we will be betrayed, often. I was visiting with a new dear friend from our new church the other day, she shared with me the fear and sadness she saw in us when we first began visiting more than a year ago now. For the most part we’re good, it’s just little things here and there that crop up from time to time. Usually, I push myself forward, but a post came up in my FB feed a week or so ago that was a plagiarized quote, so it was near my mind.

  • Tara

    12/14/2017 at 11:19 pm Reply

    Me either friend, me either. I pray that you are able to trust soon. My heart hurts that you were so betrayed this year.

    • Christy

      12/15/2017 at 10:44 am Reply

      For the most part, trust has returned. Every so often though…it’s kind of like a bad habit that’s difficult to break.

      I can’t say yet that I’d go through it again. The pain is too near, but I can say that I have definitely seen God at work in our lives through it and for that I am so very grateful.

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